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Evaluating Experiences of being a Good Mother

I have assessed my relationship with my son and realized that I am a good mother for several reasons. Firstly, I hardly get tired to listen and respond to him. Secondly, I always correct him verbally when he does wrong through letting him know the negative impacts of doing wrong things and also teach him the importance of doing good things and following rules. I teach her moral values and ethics and inform him how to apply them when interacting with children and older people and let him know the importance of doing so. I give him opportunities to play and provide him with playing materials that I find fit for him and also when he asks for them. I show him appreciation for his success every time he makes an achievement or does a good thing and cerebrate with him. I always support him to achieve his desires and set out his own path. Even though the above list of my actions to my child is not exhaustive, I appreciate the fact that I have been a good mother to him. I have realized that am a good mother through assessing and re-assessing the way I treat my child.

EXPERIENCES EVALUATION

At a glance, being a good mother may not seem to be a difficult task. However, achieving that end requires a mother to understand the fundamental value of doing some specific things to a child. Although treating a child positively makes him or her happy, the specific things that a mother does to a child may have effects that last long, and may even last throughout the child’s lifetime. To start with, it is important for a mother to listen to his or her child. Doing so makes the child learn the importance of listening to other people and avoid ignoring what they say (Brazelton 94). There is also high possibility that the child will be listening to what people say during adulthood. As Brazelton (94) explains, being attentive to a child makes him or her learn the importance of being attentive to listen. If the child learns to be attentive to listen, he is likely to always listen to the teacher in class (Brazelton 94). Initially, I used to feel bothered when listening to irrelevant things said by my child. After realizing the importance of listening, however, I made it my goal to do so and today, I and enthusiastic to have achieved that goal.

Correcting a child when he or she does wrong and letting him know when he does good things and the importance of doing so is essential in building his or her overall character. Children hardly determine the right and wrong things without being guided to do so. A parent should always correct a child when he does a wrong thing, even if the child insists to proceed. However, cruel approach should be avoided. Rather, the parent ought to show disapproval to what that child does verbally and inform the child that doing such wrong things has bad implications (Webb, 45). At the same time, a mother should comment positively when a child does the right thing and inform him or her about the positive impacts of doing the right things. As the child applies the teachings in the future, he develops a character that is likely to persist throughout his or her life. As Webb (45) explains, correcting a child and informing him about what is right and what is wrong helps in building a moral or ethical character that is essential when interacting with other people during adulthood. For instance, the child will be expected by employers to have an ethical character when interacting with employees in organizations during adulthood. To augment the correction approach, a mother should frequently teach a child the moral and ethical values that are applied when interacting with people in the society (Webb, 46). I therefore appreciate the fact that I have been keen to build a positive and good character in my child through correcting and teaching him moral and ethical values.

Play is one of the most important things that enable a child to develop various important skills that are applied in life, in addition to making a child happy. As Jambor and Van Gils(55) assert, parents should always give children opportunities and ample time to play. There are numerous positive implications of play. Firstly, it facilitates a child’s cognitive development. As we, it facilitates intellectual, emotional, physical and social growth among children. For instance, a child who plays develops ability to co-operate and work in teams with other people during adulthood (Jambor and Van Gils 56). On the other hand, a child who does not play may not be able to interact well with people in the same working teams. Empirical studies have shown that a child who plays is likely to be brighter and to perform better in class than a child who does not play (Jambor and Van Gils 56). In short, the importance of play to a child cannot be gainsaid. Although other activities such as learning in class and doing home work are important, play should not be dismissed. In this regard, it is essential for a mother to give ample time to a child to play and if possible, actively engage in play with him or her. This explains why I appreciate the fact that I give my child ample time to play and when available, I actively engage him through playing with him.

Expressing appreciation to a child when he or she makes an achievement makes the child feel happy, enthusiastic and valued. As Goodwin and Huppatz (87) argues, a parent should always show recognition of a child’s achievement, whether the child is making the first step or not. In fact, it is more important for a parent to engage the child in cerebration of the achievement. If possible, the appreciation should go beyond a simple praise. Doing so makes a child feel that what he or she did was valuable, and gives him or her morale to do better in the future. On the other hand, failure to recognize or show appreciation to a child’s achievements kills his or her morale to do better in the future. A parent should show appreciation to the achievements as long as the child is in the right way, irrespective of whether or not the child takes a different path from the interests of the parent. In fact, a parent should actively support a child to build his or her own path, depending on his or her own interests or gifts. In doing so, a child develops interest in a specific career and focuses on developing it (Goodwin and Huppatz, 87). I value the fact that irrespective of the fact that I am not an engineer, I have succeeded in supporting my child to develop his career along that path through appreciating his achievements and giving him the necessary materials.

Conclusion

Overall, I appreciate the fact that I have been able to achieve some key goals of being a good mother to my child. As indicated in the evaluation, being a good mother requires an understanding of the fundamental implications of the actions that one takes towards a child. Some of the common negative actions, such as being cruel to a child, failing to recognize and appreciate his or her achievements and dismissing play may have a detrimental impact on him or her. The effects of such actions may last for a long time, into adulthood, or even throughout lifetime. On the other hand, positive implications that result from positive treatment of a child may shape his or her future. In turn, a child feels loved, valued and close to a mother when positive things are done to him or her by the mother. I appreciate the fact that my child loves and expresses a lot of appreciation to me as his mother in return to the way I treat him.

Works Cited

Brazelton, T. Berry. To Listen to a Child &: Understanding the Normal Problems of Growing

Up. New York: Da Capo Press. 2006. Print

Goodwin, Susan and Kate Huppatz. The Good Mother: Contemporary Motherhoods in Australia.

Sydney: Sydney University Press, 2010

Jambor, Tom and Jan Van Gils. Several Perspectives on Children’s Play: Scientific Reflections

for Practitioners. Philadelphia; Garant, 2007. Print

Webb, Nancy Boyd. Culturally Diverse Parent-Child and Family Relationships: A Guide for

Social Workers and Other Practitioners. West Sussex: Columbia University Press, 2013. Print

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